How to Give and Get Meaningful Recommendations

Let's take an example- "And if we put the new... here... there'll be room
Suppose I know someone who is looking forfor..."
someone to completely 'make over' her bathroom:- "I've just finished a job where I used slates for the
New everything.floor, came up a treat..."
As it happens, we had ours done not long ago by a- "Don't go for mirrored tiling on that wall - you won't
two-man team. We had strong ideas on the particularlike it - we'll get a mirror cut to fit the space..." We
style of bath and, because the bathroom is quitestill had minor glitches, such as the fact that they
small, were anxious that the space would be wellglazed the wooden door before removing the thumb
used and keen that the natural light should beprint smudges, but nothing that couldn't be fairly
enhanced as much as possible so wanted a full sizedeasily rectified.
mirror or mirror tiles to cover at least one wall. OtherAnd they cleared up really well at the end of each
than that we were quite open-minded.day's work, so we didn't feel as if we were living in a
My recommendation of this two-man team would beconstruction site.
'warts and all': They were no more or less reliable onNow my friend has a reasonable and realistic idea of
turning up on time and with the expected sanitarywhat to expect if she decides to make contact.
ware and the necessary tools to do the job of theReferrals and recommendations
day than we'd come to expect from tradesmen.This point may seem obvious, but I'll make it anyway
However, once they realised that we appreciated thebecause, with the best will in the world, things do go
work they were doing in the cramped space andwrong and people do get 'burnt':
summer heat, they started to be more forthcomingIt's important to only give referrals and
with helpful suggestions, such as:recommendations in the best of faith. For example I
- "Don't go for the cheapest wall tiles - they'll lookknow a painter/ decorator/ carpenter whose work
okay for a couple of years, then you'll need toby all accounts is excellent. However, he's notoriously
replace them"unreliable. Would I use him? No. So I can't recommend
- "Don't go for wall tiles that are too big or too smallhim. Would I refer him? No chance. I have my own
- they'll look wrong in a bathroom this size"reputation to protect.
- "We can source a wall mounted heated towel rackWe need to all bear this in mind when we're asking
that'll fit in just here..."others for referrals and recommendations!